Loving Someone With Borderline Personality Disorder - BPD

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Sometimes, we find it difficult to love the person with BPD. Going through all the drama with them can be so exhausting. And, often times being the target of one of their bad, brutal, days, can leave us hurting to the core. Touché! They pressed the button they know hurts us the most.
This woman who has BPD, tells us how to love the person with BPD and how it works for her.

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16/12/2016

Word of warning. This video does have profanity in just a couple of sentences. But, the context of the video is what is most important. I'm posting this especially for those males who may be in a relationship with, or interested in a female who has BPD.
Please watch, so you'll know the signs to look out for.

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Do you feel as though you are being punished by your loved one with BPD? Does it appear just? Do you often ask yourself, "what is up with ______? Why is he/she acting like I've done something, when all I was doing was minding my own business?", or something similar? I think that the person with BPD was triggered by something they saw, heard, or felt; and maybe we happened to be their closest target at the time. V.L.

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Don’t take your loved one's behavior personally. Realize that their disorder is no one’s fault and it is not about you. It isn’t possible to always have the “right” response to avoid your loved one lashing out at you. Your loved one's emotional instability and your subsequent tumultuous relationship are hallmarks of Borderline Personality Disorder. Recognize that these challenges may further complicate an already complex dynamic.

19/11/2015

I have had questions presented to me on my Home page. If you would like to ask any questions pertaining to this subject, or you just want to stop by for some support or information; feel free to come and check this new page out. For any or you, who are wanting to go somewhere more private, you can come to my group page called: BPD's And the People Who Love Them. It is a closed group. Everyone there is someone who either has BPD, or knows someone with it, or is in a relationship with someone who has it. Thanks, and GOD BLESS YOU ALL! O:) xoxo

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19/11/2015

I found this article on how BPDs use manipulation to get what they want. I haven't been feeling well for the past few days. My daughter tried to manipulate me into doing God-knows-what. I wasn't in the mood to try and guess. I can only surmise, she didn't want me at her Dr. appointment to find out the gender of her baby. If that is what she wanted, that's what I gave her. I am almost certain, she will have another spin on it. When the story gets back to me... and it always does, it will be my fault. And, there will probably be some triangulating spun into it. I failed this, miserably. I let the fact that I've been not feeling well get in the way.

Anyway, let's get to the article. I'd love to hear some feedback on it. Do you know someone who resembles the symptoms?
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How to Avoid Being Manipulated by Someone With Borderline Personality Disorder
by aliciadanielle in BPD Symptoms, Family & Friends

Manipulation is one of many ways that people with Borderline Personality Disorder (BPD) attempt to control others in their lives and influence their behavior. It is not usually a conscious decision on the part of the person with BPD to do this, but that doesn’t mean that it’s OK to allow it to continue.

It’s important to recognize when you are being manipulated by someone with Borderline Personality Disorder and learn to avoid falling into the trap.

What are the signs of manipulation?

Let’s take a look at how you can tell you are being manipulated:
1.When the person with BPD is approaching you for a favor, are they warmer or more flattering than they are at other times? If their demeanor changes dramatically when they need something from you, that is a sign of manipulation.
2.How do you feel when the person with BPD is asking you to do them a favor? Do you comply out of guilt or shame knowing that you will be made to feel bad if your answer is no?
3.People with Borderline Personality Disorder often get angry or rage with little provocation. This alone can be seen as a form of manipulation. If you avoid saying or doing certain things out of fear that your actions will trigger a rage from the person with BPD, this in and of itself is manipulation.
4.Beware of coming to the rescue of someone who is always the victim. The person with BPD may be soliciting your help under the pretense that they are helpless without you or the victims of others’ bad actions.

How can I avoid being manipulated by someone with BPD?

The best way to avoid being manipulated is to give yourself permission to refuse the manipulator’s requests. You must not buy into the idea that not acting as they want you to makes you responsible for their feelings.

It’s easier said than done. In my case, when I first began to say no to the person in my life with Borderline Personality Disorder, I knew I was acting appropriately in asserting myself, but I was still consumed by guilt afterward. The love I feel for my nephews was frequently used to get me to come and babysit them with no advance notice. My BPD sister-in-law would call me in the middle of an emotional breakdown and ask me to come over right that minute and take care of my nephews so she could go out. One day I even left a lunch date before the food arrived just to comply with her wishes.

Sometimes when I arrived she would be acting completely normal again and would be dressed and ready to go out. I was fully aware that my affection was being used as a tool to get me to serve my sister-in-law’s needs, but I felt obligated to my nephews and terribly guilty when I said no.

Now I realize that my life, my desires, and my needs matter, too. I have learned to keep it simple and short and to stick to my guns when I don’t want to do something she wants me to. I do this by practicing detachment. I keep my emotions at a distance and simply assert myself calmly, remembering that saying no is not a sign that I am a bad person. In doing this consistently, I find myself accumulating less resentment toward my sister-in-law. I feel better saying yes when it feels right to me as opposed to doing so primarily out of guilt or shame.

Learning to say no to someone you care about who has Borderline Personality Disorder is often very difficult, but in doing so you set boundaries that allow you to take better care of yourself and have a relationship that is free from manipulation.

18/11/2015

Do not allow yourself to be drawn into an argument or altercation with someone you know has BPD. What is usually said in anger, is usually about seeking approval or sympathy. It is another symptom that leads people to believe the BPD person is a drama queen. They seem to thrive on negativity.

This behavior is very difficult for them to control. And, if they are able to control it, it is only for a short time. They experience intense abandonment fears and inappropriate anger, even when faced with a realistic time-limited separation or when there are unavoidable changes in plans (e.g., sudden despair in reaction to a clinician’s announcing the end of the hour; panic or fury when someone important to them is just a few minutes late or must cancel an appointment). They may believe that this “abandonment” implies they are “bad.” These abandonment fears are related to an intolerance of being alone and a need to have other people with them. Relationships and the person’s emotions may sometimes be seen by others or characterized as being shallow.

17/11/2015

Hello, and Welcome!
I am so glad you decided to join. As a mother of a grown child who has BPD, I had no idea what laid in store for me. I hadn't even heard of Borderline Personality Disorder, until my daughter was Dx'd with it. She was grown and had a child of her own then. So, as I do with all my family and friends who at one time or another get diagnosed with something; I research to get a better understanding of what my child is going through, and how I'm supposed to deal with it. I can only wish some of my family and friends would do the same about my disease, Multiple Sclerosis. These alphabet diseases are no joke. We need more information and support. That is why I made this page.

One of the things I do ask is, no foul language. People abusing others with vulgarity or flaming will be asked to stop. If you find it is impossible to stop; you'll be asked to leave.

There will be times when the topic of s*x will arise. I just ask you to keep it clean and not overly graphic. No explicit s*x talk will be tolerated. I'm sure everyone is aware, there are other sites for that.

No verbally attacking others. We all have opinions. We are all entitled to them. If you don't agree with someone else's opinion that is okay. But, verbally abusing someone will not be tolerated. Life is hard enough being dealt the hand we've been dealt.

I would like this to be a page where people will want to come to, to find the help they are looking for. We can all help each other. Please, feel free to post articles that pertain to the topic of this page. Anything that you might find beneficial reading for the others here, feel free to share.

There are going to be days when you may just want to share something off topic. That is okay. We can always use a little comic relief or just a break from what's going on. But, let's not get too carried away.

Thank-you for joining. Have a wonderful day.

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